Love in the Time of COVID-19

These are crazy times for all of us. We are facing a pandemic, the likes of which the world has not seen since 1918! Our world is so complicated and interdependent that everything is topsy turvy! What will happen? Will someone I love die or will I die? How long will it last? And yet, amidst all this chaos and …

How Letting Go of Your Children Is Better for Everyone

Sometimes it’s hard to believe that it’s time to let our children go! I don’t mean that we don’t love them or ardently wish for their happiness! What I’m talking about is that feeling when we realize that it’s time to step back, to honor their connection to their partner or to their friends, even, before OUR connection to them. …

Solving the Real Issues Instead of Defending Ourselves

How do you react when someone tells you there is a problem in the relationship and they give you feedback about it? Do you welcome that feedback and take it on as loving guidance? As something to ponder and learn from, so that you can improve your life and your relationship and solve the “problem?” Or do you instantly feel …

When to Stay? When to Leave? A 10-Step Guide to Deciding

1. Notice what is happening. You’d be surprised at how many people don’t notice. Are you and your partner feeling connected? Is there a feeling of separation between you and your partner, boss, colleague? You can’t deal with an issue until you face it and discuss what you are observing. So many of my clients say they are surprised when …

Everyone Wants to Be Understood, But No One Wants to Listen

We all are craving that feeling of being deeply understood and accepted for just who we are. It is the most relaxing and safe feeling in the world. It supports us to be at our best! It opens our hearts and it allows us to be more loving and optimistic and just plain happy! But, there’s a glitch in the …

How to Apologize: Making Amends and Apologies

In this blog, I am going to share with you how to make an amends, an apology that really helps to heal whatever the conflict is! I will tell you the 5steps that you can follow to do an amends that makes the other person feel truly heard and understood. I am going to share with you a process that …

How to Stop Retaliating and Being Angry When You Feel Hurt

When someone says something hurtful, it’s almost automatic that we get reactive and want to hurt them back or at least make them know what a jerk they were for saying that to you, which is in essence a desire to punish them for what they said or did. What if you could overcome that desire to retaliate and be …