Love in the Time of COVID-19

These are crazy times for all of us. We are facing a pandemic, the likes of which the world has not seen since 1918! Our world is so complicated and interdependent that everything is topsy turvy! What will happen? Will someone I love die or will I die? How long will it last? And yet, amidst all this chaos and …

Body Shame: How Can Anyone Love Your Body If You Don’t?

  Where did so many women learn to hate their bodies? You were not born hating your body. It is something that you learned. Realize that you have been brainwashed by a society that values a completely unrealistic view of what both women and men should look and act like. Be aware that if are a woman, that you have …

What to Do When You’ve Been a Jerk

No matter how evolved you are, you are not perfect! No matter how evolved you are, you make mistakes. And no matter how Zen you are, you have upsets, just like the rest of us. You get triggered and act like a jerk, just like the next guy. You might not do it often or you might find yourself doing …

How to Overcome Your Reactivity and Stop the Pain

  We can all be reactive; let’s be honest and clear about that fact. I’ve never met the Dalai Lama; maybe he’s not reactive, but the rest of us are. And, let’s also be clear that being reactive hurts us and those around us. It hurts us in obvious and not-so-obvious ways. It makes others feel pushed away or judged …

There Is Only One Human Problem!

It looks like there are millions of problems, right? Well, are there, really? Or is it really about HOW we handle the problems? Many of us try to cope with all the challenges of life by avoiding, denying, pretending that things are just fine the way they are, or that we are helpless to make any difference. We eat, drink …

Women Supporting Other Women

Women loving other women. Women empowering other women. Women lifting up other women. Women having each other’s’ backs. Seeing another woman’s success as your success. Women being happy when their friends find their right partner. Women wanting their friends to feel beautiful and confident even when we don’t. Women realizing that only when we see ourselves as each other will …

Releasing Agendas Brings Self-Love

Everyone has agendas, if you are willing to be honest! And when you do have agendas, you are not neutral and willing to do what you know or suspect is right. When you have an agenda, you are not open to intuitive guidance, guidance from the Universe. You simply want it “your way.” And you also go along with agendas …

How Letting Go of Your Children Is Better for Everyone

Sometimes it’s hard to believe that it’s time to let our children go! I don’t mean that we don’t love them or ardently wish for their happiness! What I’m talking about is that feeling when we realize that it’s time to step back, to honor their connection to their partner or to their friends, even, before OUR connection to them. …

If You Want to Keep It A Secret, Don’t Do It

  I used to love working with my teen girls’ group and hearing them complain that people had shared something they wanted to keep secret. It was always something that they felt wrong about doing or they would not have cared who shared their secret, right? I always told them that if they were doing something that needed to be …

Solving the Real Issues Instead of Defending Ourselves

How do you react when someone tells you there is a problem in the relationship and they give you feedback about it? Do you welcome that feedback and take it on as loving guidance? As something to ponder and learn from, so that you can improve your life and your relationship and solve the “problem?” Or do you instantly feel …